Betrayal, a painful human experience: How to deal with betrayal – We Motivate BON
Betrayal, a painful human experience: How to deal with betrayal – We Motivate – Betrayal is one of the most painful human experiences. Discovering that someone we trusted has deeply hurt us pulls the reality rug from under us.
When we see the word “betrayal” we may immediately think “affair”. But betrayal comes in many forms. Abandonment, vicious gossip, and spreading lies also may be experienced as betrayal.
A damaging aspect of betrayal is that our sense of reality is undermined. What felt like solid trust suddenly crumbles. Our innocence is shattered. We’re left wondering: What happened? How could this happen? Who is this person? At that point one could say that it is easier to forgive an enemy than to forgive a friend.” “It was a mistake,” you said. But the cruel thing was, it felt like the mistake was mine, for trusting you.”
The most common forms of betrayal are harmful disclosures of confidential information, disloyalty, infidelity, dishonesty. They can be traumatic and cause considerable distress. The effects of betrayal include shock, loss and grief, morbid pre-occupation, damaged self-esteem, self-doubting, anger.
How do one deal with betrayal? Is revenge the right answer? The best revenge is to not revenge at all. So how do one deal with betrayal?
- Try to forgive. Forgiveness does not mean that you are condoning the act of betrayal.
- Let go of negative feelings. Focus on yourself instead of on the person who hurt you.
- 3:State your forgiveness, at least to yourself. To forgive is an act of self-care.
- Forgive without rebuilding.
- Keep trying.
In conclusion, when someone betrays you, it is a reflection of their character, not yours. Forgive yourself for the blindness that put you in that path of those who betrayed you and then move on.
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